tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post155278306559007223..comments2023-10-18T00:03:31.222+10:00Comments on Stafford Ray: Dying to say no.Stafford Rayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03048757515249725540noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-3859816099244005062011-04-26T21:56:33.990+10:002011-04-26T21:56:33.990+10:00Stafford,
I pray everyday that our son has found p...Stafford,<br />I pray everyday that our son has found peace in a better place. We lost him two years ago to an 18 year struggle with alcoholism, which started in college. He was 37. I'll pray that your son will meet that miracle,which will wrest him from the clutches of the demon of drugs.Ann Grenierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13501522748426995035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-31266633169891159432010-07-18T03:51:44.754+10:002010-07-18T03:51:44.754+10:00... glad I wandered back.... glad I wandered back.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619199535376925989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-43993272054214279012010-07-14T22:06:38.049+10:002010-07-14T22:06:38.049+10:00To anyone who wanders back here, thanks for the wi...To anyone who wanders back here, thanks for the wishes, they are really appreciated. To madambutterfly, my son's mother was an alcoholic too and I also eventually 'bailed out' when I decided I could do no more. From this far away and with emotions calmer, I think there was probably more I could have done but we will never know. A delightfully witty and intelligent woman, she died about twelve years ago after two more marriages that failed, never finding a way out of her alcoholism and depression.Stafford Rayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048757515249725540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-75809536561762807412010-07-14T19:01:19.401+10:002010-07-14T19:01:19.401+10:00Thank you for sharing this post; my husband died a...Thank you for sharing this post; my husband died a few weeks ago, from liver failure caused by his alcoholism. Watching his self-destruction became too painful and for the sake of my sanity and that of my kids I had to bail out towards the end. I note you posted this on 30th June - his birthday.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-51120289121328689222010-07-07T03:01:27.752+10:002010-07-07T03:01:27.752+10:00I am sorry for both the young man who committed su...I am sorry for both the young man who committed suicide and for your son. I lost my dearest cousin, Patrick, to heroin. I hope your son beats it, I really do. It is one of the most horrible things in the world to witness. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for such an honest and courageous post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-91465862230500854872010-07-02T18:10:56.660+10:002010-07-02T18:10:56.660+10:00My Heart Goes Out To This Darling Boy..
1000 Kisse...My Heart Goes Out To This Darling Boy..<br />1000 Kisses Are On A Wing and A Prayer ..<br />May There Be Some Kind of " Warm " in My Wishes ..<br /><br />Gentle is The Memory Whispering On The Wind ..Flutterby Whispernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-41383542117943359932010-07-01T01:41:10.816+10:002010-07-01T01:41:10.816+10:00This is such a sad story, for the young dare devil...This is such a sad story, for the young dare devil, his dad and for you. <br /><br />In the case of the young man you describe, the first thing that came to mind was how hard, how terrible, to live your entire life trying to "measure up" to his dad. Your physical description slammed that home. So sad.<br /><br />For your son, don't give up hope. As you said, he's alive. Something may come along to pull him out of the quagmire he's in. For both of you, I pray it does.PattiKenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02894925987580502697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-48592393308267435242010-06-30T19:17:11.774+10:002010-06-30T19:17:11.774+10:00Our warmest vibes are blowing your way.Our warmest vibes are blowing your way.Chartreusehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05919069110736697400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-24259710207495858552010-06-30T12:46:09.351+10:002010-06-30T12:46:09.351+10:00Both stories are sad, but especially yours. Addict...Both stories are sad, but especially yours. Addiction is a sad and powerful thing. I know how helpless you feel, but don't place the blame on yourself, Stafford. It's obvious how much you love your son.Tess Kincaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04889725786678984293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-32277869653924573372010-06-30T10:49:45.199+10:002010-06-30T10:49:45.199+10:00I thank you too, Stafford. I share your sadness an...I thank you too, Stafford. I share your sadness and admire your courage. Chances are each and every Power That Be is either directly or indirectly involved with someone who suffers mental ill health. Are they waiting for someone else to take the initiative? We need to keep pushing and stay on top of GetUp too before they get caught up in other issues. <br />Lee K Curtis (A newbie to blogs who can't figure out how to sign a Comment.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-17373620592856620222010-06-30T10:18:53.961+10:002010-06-30T10:18:53.961+10:00Thank you for leading me to Gabrielle's post a...Thank you for leading me to Gabrielle's post and thank you for being so brave to write this. <br /><br />My heart aches for you and others who witness the slow death that addiction brings. Just aches.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619199535376925989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-67633580589331252482010-06-30T09:19:02.105+10:002010-06-30T09:19:02.105+10:00Thanks for posting this Stafford and for the link....Thanks for posting this Stafford and for the link. I'm terribly sorry about your son but I know what you mean. The drawn out suicide of an addiction is a truly horrible thing and this is what it is like with my brain damaged brother (also alcoholic) who regularly gets arrested or passes out on the streets of the Valley in Brisbane and ends up in emergency wards. I've been waiting for that phone call for over 20 years now (the whole family has). But there is always a slim hope, though forlorn as you said before. It would have to be a miracle I think. Keep writing Stafford - you put a smile on my dial as a general rule ;)Gabrielle Brydenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10764860288982470482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-68809969394067828372010-06-30T08:07:59.563+10:002010-06-30T08:07:59.563+10:00Thanks meleah rebeccah. it is pauinful but so frus...Thanks meleah rebeccah. it is pauinful but so frustrating becasue tbere seems little one can DO!<br />Suz, you got me about right. <br /><br />I am getting in early here, because I don't want to reply to every comment on this one. But please leave them for others to read, as I will, so we can share our experiences. Also, please take the link to Gabrielle's blog. Well worth the effort.Stafford Rayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048757515249725540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-91769549934848159742010-06-30T05:47:56.731+10:002010-06-30T05:47:56.731+10:00I can't imagine this sorrow for you
your photo...I can't imagine this sorrow for you<br />your photo..which is all I really know of you and of course your magpies,suggest a man<br />happy in his skin and gentle as a breeze with a bit of wicked in him to pass the day with a laugh<br />and then this post...heroin is evil...it takes prisoners....<br />But what is certain is your love for this boy<br />for he is your boy....he knows this..but heroin takes prisoners...<br />thank you for sharing this with us...who have come to know you ...and careSuzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329289442910294160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498398785015106016.post-65178380617428943192010-06-30T05:28:12.733+10:002010-06-30T05:28:12.733+10:00Oh my. How terribly sad. And I am REALLY sorry to ...Oh my. How terribly sad. And I am REALLY sorry to hear about your own son. I can't even imagine what that must be like to live through and watch with your own eyes.meleah rebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.com